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Help to Build Up a Personal Relationship with Jesus Christ

Are you satisfied with your personal relationship with Jesus Christ? I know that I’m not.

But I’m a learner seeking to cultivate, along with fellow believers,  a more affectionate, personal relationship with the Lord Jesus. Along with the lover in the Song of Songs, my prayer to the Lord is “Draw me; we will run after you…”  

How do you cultivate a personal relationship with Jesus Christ?

So I hope you’ll join me in this pursuit.

That’s how I consider “Holding to Truth in Love”—a community of Christ’s loving seekers “running after” the Lord Jesus together.

May the cry of the lover in Song of Songs become our daily prayer to the Lord,

“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth! For your love is better than wine. Draw me; we will run after you.” S. S. 1:2, 4a 

Only His attracting love can bring us into such an affectionate, personal relationship with Jesus.

Help I’ve received to build up a personal relationship with the Lord Jesus

“I love my Lord, but with no love of mine” 

We need to come to the Lord Jesus daily to be “emptied, lost, and swallowed up” in Him. We need to ask Him to infuse us with His loving Self again and again. That’s because It is His attracting power that becomes our pursuing power.

Our love for our Lord is inadequate at best. Madame Guyon, expressed this sentiment very well in the first stanza of her hymn, “I love my Lord, but with no love of mine”: 

I love my Lord, but with no love of mine,
For I have none to give;
I love Thee, Lord, but all the love is Thine,
For by Thy love I live.
I am as nothing, and rejoice to be
Emptied, and lost, and swallowed up in Thee.

[Hymn 546 in Hymns published by Living Stream Ministry]

The need for an affectionate, personal relationship with Jesus

Left to ourselves, we can’t avoid the plight of growing cold toward the Lord. Although we can’t make ourselves love the Lord Jesus, we can cultivate a personal and affectionate relationship with Him.

The following footnote from the Holy Bible Recovery Version expresses this crucial need:

“According to [Song of Songs 1:] 2-3, the lover of Christ has obtained a part of Christ’s love, but now she yearns for something more intimate. This indicates that the very Christ in whom we believe is personal and affectionate toward us, and that every believer’s relationship with Christ must be personal and affectionate (Mark 16:7 and note; John 13:23; 20:1-17; Gal. 2:20b). After believing in Christ to receive Him as the divine life (John 1:4, 12), we need to love Christ in a personal and affectionate way that we may pursue Him and enjoy Him as our satisfaction (1 Cor. 2:9 and note 3; 1 Tim. 1:14 and note 2).” [S.S. 1:2, note 1, par. 2]

Watchman Nee in his classic exposition of Song of Songs also addresses our need for a personal, affectionate relationship with the Lord:

If the Holy Spirit has not put a real dissatisfaction with a general relationship and a pursuit for personal affection within a believer, he can never expect to have an intimate experience of the Lord. This pursuit is the basis for all future experience. If we do not have such a hunger and thirst, we will only have a poetic song, and it will not be the Song of Songs.” (The Song of Songs, Chapter 1, Section 1 )

May we respond to this word by asking the Lord to grant us His mercy to be dissatisfied with a general relationship.  May we also beseech the Lord to put within us a hunger and thirst for personal affection so that we might pursue, as the lover in Song of Songs, such an intimate relationship with Him.

Based on his own testimony, Witness Lee gives us some practical help to apply the burden conveyed in Watchman Nee’s quote above. In his Crystallization-Study of Song of Songs, Lee says,

“We all need this kind of personal, affectionate, intimate contact with the Lord every day. This has become my habit. Every morning after rising up I go to my desk and the first thing I say is, “Lord Jesus, I love You.”…We all need to take heed to what the seeker says: “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!” …This is a personal, intimate prayer. “Draw me; we will run after you.” This is personal and affectionate. We need this kind of personal and affectionate seeking after Him, and we need to build up such a relationship with Him that is so personal and affectionate.” (Crystallization-Study of Song of Songs, Chapter 1, Section 4).

May we not allow our precious days to slip away, being  satisfied with a general relationship with the Lord. Instead, we should cultivate a personal and affectionate relationship with Him every day. In such a way Christ will grow in us and make us His loving counterpart for our eternal marriage to Him (Rev. 19:7).

May we make the words of the fourth stanza of Howard Higashi’s song “The Divine Romance” our personal prayer:

Lord, in this close sweet fellowship,
Lord, be with me so intimate,
So personal and affectionate;
A sweet relationship.

Lord, daily change my inward being
Lord, all my heart possessing
In all my being—transforming
To be Your bride and queen.

In Your love I’m drawn,
To You I belong;
I am not my own, Lord,
I’m Yours alone.

By Your love I’m drawn,
In Your name I’m charmed,
And Your Person captured me,
For I’ve been kissed by Thee.

The experience of building up a personal affectionate relationship with the Lord Jesus is vast and will continue for our entire Christian life.  As such, this article can only hope to cultivate the desire for such a relationship with Jesus. Have you received help from this post to cultivate such a affectionate, personal relationship with Jesus? If so, please share it in a brief comment.

About Tom Smith

Hi. My name is Tom Smith. I'm the writer behind Holding to Truth in Love, and I love the Lord Jesus and His life-giving Word. Please feel free to send me an e-mail through the contact page if you have any questions. I hope you'd take a moment to subscribe to the Holding to Truth blog. Then you'll be sure not to miss a post. Thanks!

20 Replies

  1. Amen, brother… After reading this article I have to say that I have been stirred up in my love for the Lord. He wants us to have a personal, intimate, and affectionate relationship with Him. And daily we are cultivating such a relationship with Him – in love, touching Him, spending time with Him…

    Lord Jesus, we love You!

    1. Your comment encourages me that we are not pursuing the Lord alone. Rather as the lover in Song of Songs, our word to the Lord is “Draw ME, WE will run after you. The attracting is personal, yet the running is corporate. We need one another’s encouragement to not grow cold and to keep following the Lord in hot pursuit.

  2. Victor

    Praise the Lord. That´s all what I can say: I need that!!! Praise the Lord. Hoy sweet He speaks afresh again.

  3. Hi there are using WordPress for your site platform?
    I’m new to the blog world but I’m trying to get started and
    create my own. Do you need any html coding knowledge to make your own blog?

    Any help would be greatly appreciated!

    1. Tom Smith

      Yes, the Holding to Truth blog is built on WordPress with Genesis and a custom theme on top. Not much, if any, HTML coding knowledge is required. Now and them we may tweek the the HTML coding a little. Hope that helps. Hope you enjoy Holding to Truth and come back often.

  4. Tewodros Worku

    I Love the Lord! and need to Love Him More and More each day!!!

    1. Tom Smith

      I love Him too! Jesus is so sweet. Just come to Him each day and tell Him that you love Him and want to be filled with Him. It’s not that we can love Him but that He infuses His loving Self into us. We just need to be emptied, lost, and swallowed up in Him.

  5. Julie Cagle

    How sweet it is to tell the Lord we love Him first thing every morning! Only love keeps us in the proper relationship with Him.
    “Lord, gain our first and our best love. Keep us in this sweet, intimate relationship with You. Don’t let us be satisfied with anything else.”

    1. Tom Smith

      Amen! It is so good to tell the Lord Jesus we love Him especially first think in the morning. Thanks for sharing the short prayer. It is one that worth telling the Lord every day.

  6. Ubi Great

    Lord Jesus, WE love You!!!

    1. Tom Smith

      Amen! It’s great to tell the Lord Jesus we love Him every day…even when we’re not feeling like it. We can turn to Him, open to Him and tell Him that we love Him and need Him. We can ask Him to draw us. It is good to realize that it is not just “me” but “WE” love who love Jesus and are running after Him.

  7. O Lord Jesus, I love You!
    Just as our dear Lover became a man to reach us. We really must reach the Lord in the morning in return. Making this a habit will cause us to cultivate our intimate and affectionate relationship with Him. My co-lovers of the Lord, we must give ourselves to love Him! Amen!

  8. Jabez

    Amen! we shouldn’t be satisfied by the general relationship only, but we need to build a personal and intimate relationship with the Lord. Lord! kiss me with kisses of your mouth. Draw me, we will run after you.

  9. Maria Esther

    I love Jesus!!! He’s my father and I always refer him as my sweet dad. I don’t wanna be his queen as mentioned in the post I wanna be his princess.

    1. Tom Smith


      In Psalm 45 we can see the thought of Christ being our Husband and King (v. 1) and of our being His wife and queen (v. 9) presented in poetic allegory. There is also the references there to the “King’s daughter” in v. 13. In any case we need to see that we need to build up a personal and romantic relationship with our Lord Jesus. To build up such a relationship, we need to spend personal time with Him each day starting first thing in the morning. It is good to tell the Lord we love Him and receive His word as loving words to us.

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